Turn Up the Heat: Find the Best Sex Toys for Couples
You may have a slew of fun, sexy toys — but do you have specific toys to use with your partner? Exploring toys in the bedroom, especially ones designed with a duo in mind, can be a really fun way to spice up your sex life for the better. Enter: the best sex toys for couples
Remember: using sex toys solo or with a partner(s) should be enjoyable. If you feel uncomfortable reaching for a specific toy, chances are, that’s not the toy for you. But don’t worry — that doesn’t mean there isn’t a toy for you and your honey out there, regardless of your sexual orientation, or where you both fall on the gender spectrum.
But how can you find them? What are the best sex toys for couples? Are couples vibrators a thing? We’re here to help — from not being embarrassed about how to introduce and use sex toys with your partner to diving into your sexual wellness safely (and have the most fun) — we’re here to break it all down, below.
Why Couples Use Sex Toys
There are so many reasons couples choose to bring in toys into their sex life. Maybe it’s hard to achieve an orgasm without a toy, or you’re looking to explore new sensations together, or learn what each other likes best. No matter what, though, using couples sex toys is a great way to bring you closer — and not just physically.
Sex toys can add some well-needed excitement, and more pleasure to intimacy, too. Unlike stereotypes might have you believe, they’re not to take away from a partner or the experience, but act as an enhancement to the experience. Sex toys aren’t meant to steal the show, but add to it, like a character in a movie.
How to Introduce the Idea of Sex Toys into a Couples Relationship
If you’re thinking about bringing couples sex toys into the mix, first, you have to bring up the idea with your partner(s). Whether you’re a seasoned sex talker or you’re just getting started, here are our top recommendations for how to enter into the toy conversation:
Leveraging a gentle approach. You’ll want to approach the topic when the vibes are right. While this may vary from what you think, the talk is usually best suited outside of the bedroom. Think over a few drinks on the patio or cuddled up by the fireplace.
Gauge you and your partner’s experience with sex toys (which might surprise you!) and how the both of you feel they can enhance your sex life.
Find a way to say what you feel. Remember: you deserve to have pleasure, and if sex toys are what could make it even more likely for you, you should go for it.
If all goes well, this can open the door to learning more about your partner’s fantasies, desires, preferences, and more. When it comes down to it, sex toys are already strengthening your relationship (even just by talking about them.)
How to Use Sex Toys as a Couple
The most important part of using sex toys as a couple, perhaps, is making sure all parties are on board. After all, consent is key. Once you have that, then you can do the fun part: pick out couples sex toys together.
Talking about how you want to use them can build anticipation, plus, when it’s time for those intimate moments, you can really lean into some of what you already discussed. Now you can explore as much as you’d like.
What Makes a Good Sex Toy for Couples?
What makes a good sex toy for couples? That all depends on you and your partner(s) preferences. For example, if you or your lover likes vibration, or tingles, or something more restrained, all of that can go into consideration if it’s good or not for you both.
If you’re new to the sex toy realm, or are going at this as a pair for the first time, we recommend focusing on how the toys you’ve chosen to explore with are intended for use, plus their quality and how they make you feel.
Some sex toys can be used total-body, which can help partners get comfortable with sex toys before they touch those intimate areas, while others are specifically going right for it. What makes it good, or not, truly depends on what you both desire and care about most.
Types of Sex Toys for Couples
The world of sex toys is exciting, especially when you find your favorite types of sex toys. We encourage couples to play around, enjoy the process, and of course, prioritize safety in the process. Because they do intimate areas, you’ll want to avoid toxic materials and chemicals and use toys that make you feel the most safe
Here are some popular types of sex toys for couples to try out, below:
Handcuffs: Setting the mood is important. Whether you’re practicing foreplay or in the heat of the moment, handcuffs can add to the excitement. Our Flexible Handcuffs ($20) fit wrists comfortably, so your partner can be comfortable even when they're a bit tied up.
Lubricants: Lubricants can reduce friction, thus making intimacy more comfortable, safer, and exciting, too. Sex toys or not, lubricant should be in your drawer of tricks. If you’re using lubricant with sex toys, make sure the type of lube is compatible. Water-based lubricants ($15) are recommended for silicone sex toys. Lubricants can be a good gateway to using actual sex toys.
Vibrators: Vibrators come in many shapes and sizes, all intended to deliver pleasure. For new sex toy users, our Play Mini Vibrator ($35) fits perfectly in your hand and delivers targeted stimulation. Rub the round side anywhere or use the curvy side nestled on the clitoris or anus. Small in size and backed with power, it’s time for some play time. Want more power? Order The Vibe Bundle ($140 value for only $119) for versatile feel-good vibrations.
Massagers: Getting your partner relaxed can help set the tone for intimate moments. Massagers are a great way to relieve tension for you and your partner, and when the massager doubles as a sex toy, you’re ready for the moment when it hits. Our Caress Full-Body Massager ($65) features a pleasure-ball side for full-body stimulation and relaxation, and a non-vibrating handle that can be used as an internal toy.
5 Top Sex Toys for Couples
Here are 5 top sexpert (sex expert) sex toy picks ideal for new sex toy users, or seasoned ones.
Link Flexible Handcuffs ($20)
Luxe Arousal Oil ($45)
Play Mini Vibrator ($35)
Designed for mankind, each sex toy does have intended uses, which you should familiarize yourself with to ensure safety. At Bloomi, we pride ourselves on high standards, with our clean standard being the only industry standard to ensure toxic ingredients don’t touch your intimate areas. Plus, all of our sex toys come with a discreet storage bag so you can keep them clean and hidden when not in use.
From our products to our packaging, we care about the details that impact users and our beloved environment. Our packaging is made with sustainable, compostable, and recyclable materials. Use our clean intimate care products, all free of vulvar allergens, to maintain clean sex toys that you’ll want to use over and over again.
New to sex toys? Get started with the ideal beginner’s trio, The Starter Bundle ($74 dollar value for only $63) by Bloomi.
