Looking for ‘the best sex toys for my wife?’ Here’s how to find what will *really* please her
Looking for the best sex toys for your wife is a win-win — and the happy wife equals happy life trope aside — she’ll really appreciate knowing you’ve thought about her pleasure.
Not to mention, is there anything sexier than seeing your wife experience full-blown pleasure overload? The key is finding toys she’ll be comfortable using and starting with an open dialogue about what brings you both pleasure, so you get even closer.
Understanding your wife’s preferences and comfort level
No one knows your wife in the bedroom like you do. What does she like — external or internal pleasure, or a mix of both? Would she prefer a small handheld vibrator or something larger?
Knowing the answers to these types of questions can help you find the best sex toys for your wife. If your wife has never experimented with toys, you might want to start slowly and work up. On the other hand, a seasoned expert in the toy department may appreciate something new and exciting she’s never tried before.
Popular types of sex toys (that your wife will love)
There is a wide variety of popular sex toys for wives, including (but certainly not limited to):
Internal vibrators
External vibrators
Full body vibrators
Handcuffs
Lubricants
Our shopping guide: Finding the right sex toy for your lover
Did you know that over fifty percent of women report owning and using a vibrator? And for good reason. They are designed to maximize female pleasure. But no two vibrators are made exactly the same, and in our opinion, your wife can never have too many in her collection.
With different settings, intensity levels, shapes, and even textures, you can help her create a never-ending level of vibrating fun.
Plus, vibrators come in all shapes and sizes and can be used for more than just the clitoris. Some vibrators double as full body massagers, while others are perfectly shaped to offer internal stimulation. Here’s an overview of some of our favorites to help you find the best sex toys for your wife.
The Play Mini Vibrator ($35) is an ideal starting point. Boasting a compact size and curvy shape, it fits comfortably in your (or her) hand. It’s designed with two different sides; one is round and feels nice when placed just about anywhere. The other side is perfectly curved to nestle right up to the clitoris or anus for stimulation, where she craves it most. Thanks to three different vibration settings, your wife can pick which intensity and pulse she prefers. Other perks include one hour of continuous use between charges and a travel-friendly mode for sex sessions away from home.
Massage Clitoral Vibrator ($45) According to Women’s Health Magazine, Bloomi’s Massage Clitoral and Body Vibrator is ranked one of the best toys by intimacy therapists. The handheld massager fits right in the palm of your hand while the rounded edges go to work, offering a plethora of pleasure to the clitoris and beyond.
Caress Full Body Massager ($65) Looking for something a little larger? The Caress is a full-body massage wand capable of relieving tense and stress before it goes to work providing fireworks. One side vibrates while the other side does not, offering the option for an internal toy as an added bonus.
How to introduce sex toys into your marriage
Adding a fun new toy or two into the bedroom can be an incredible experience. After all, toys do things that our bodies alone simply cannot - like pulse and vibrate. Plus, it helps keep things spicy, new, and interesting. Yet, if you’ve been with your partner for a while and have not introduced toys to the bedroom, you might be wondering how to go about doing so. Vibrators are highly targeted to female pleasure; therefore, chances are you won’t have much issue convincing your partner to give it a go. And remember, a vibrator takes nothing away from you; it just adds to what you can offer.
Here are some tips for throwing toys into the mix:
Time it right
The key is to time out the conversation just right. Instead of whipping the toy out mid-sex sesh, try talking about it when sex isn’t on the table so your partner has time to warm up to the idea before they are presented with using it.
Never force it
Make sure your partner is comfortable trying a certain toy, and never force it upon them. You can always bring it up and then leave it on the table for them to think about and consider.
Be open and honest
Steer clear of criticizing your current sex life or bringing up any frustrations you may have. Instead, point out how this could be something new and fun to try together. Be open about what turns you on; for instance, watching them have an amazing orgasm with a vibrator. Try coming from a place of exploration to avoid making your partner feel inadequate or insecure about the sex you’ve been having.
Remember, you’re on an exploratory journey together
At the end of the day your goals are aligned - to reach peak pleasure together. Don’t forget this common goal. Present the idea of toys as an exciting exploratory journey you get to go on together to find what you both like in the bedroom. The longer one is in a relationship, the more comfortable he or she becomes. This level of comfort could potentially cause things in the bedroom to become stagnant, or it could help both parties unlock a deeper understanding of what brings the greatest pleasure in the bedroom - judgment-free.
3 common concerns about buying sex toys for your wife
Still, have some concerns about buying a sex toy for your wife? You’re not alone, but fear not! Here’s some great advice for spicing things up.
1. How do I buy a sex toy for my wife?
Hit the buy button - you won’t regret it! But first, consider talking to your wife openly and honestly about her comfort level using toys. Ask her what she likes or would like to try. Centering the purchase around her wants, needs, and comfort level is key to success.
2. Is it okay to buy sex toys for my wife?
Who better to buy a sex toy than a husband shopping for his wife? After all, you are the King of your woman’s pleasure, and you know what she likes in the bedroom more than anyone else. Other than her, of course, and that’s why it’s important to have an open discussion first and foremost about what she is willing and wanting to try.
3. How to maintain and care for sex toys?
High-quality sex toys don’t take a lot of care or maintenance. Bloomi’s sex toys are made to simplify things - not complicate them. Say no thanks to toy malfunctions and complicated buttons; we kicked all that to the curb with our sleek and easy-to-use designs. There are no pricey batteries to replace; simply charge your toy and keep it clean with mild soap and water. Then, when you’re ready to use your toys, they’ll be there for you time and time again.
Your continued journey of intimacy: Exploring new avenues together
There are few things in life sweeter than exploring intimacy with your wife. Together, you can find new things that amp up the pleasure and bring you even closer together. From role-playing to bondage and everything in between, you have the freedom to get as kinky as you both desire in the bedroom. As the saying goes, together is always better.
