How to have the hottest vacation sex this summer
Do you notice that once the summer rolls around and you're off to vacation, suddenly you're in the mood for mind-blowing vacation sex?
According to a recent survey, even 80% of Americans believe that sex is much better when they're away from home. So, if you've noticed that you've been in the mood for intimacy more often while you're on vacation, know that you're definitely not alone.
In fact, Dr. Justin Lehmiller's research shows that even 90% of people fantasize about having sex in a hotel and 83% have fantasies of having sex on the beach and other vacation locations.
Clearly, summer seems to be the best time to have more sex. Whether you're heading on vacation, or simply want to spice things up while the weather is sunny and warm outside, let's talk about how to have the hottest sex this summer.
6 tips to help you enhance vacation sex this summer
Why vacation is a good time to engage in intimacy
Vacation is usually the time when most people unplug and relax. It's a break from everyday routine, stress at work, and all the other demanding things in life. All of that has an effect on your sex drive.
First of all, going on vacation means changing the location and the environment, which is something new, and exciting. And novelty is one of the things that boosts sexual desire and arousal, even in long-term relationships.
Also, when you're on vacation, you're less stressed and you get more sleep. Both lack of sleep and excessive stress can negatively impact your sex drive. So, when you take the stress away, and you get a few hours more of sleep, you might find yourself much more interested in having sex.
If you choose to vacation in sunny locations, or even if you get more sun while out and about during the summer months, you might be getting a testosterone boost, which can be a reason for increased sex drive.
Tips for unforgettable vacation sex
Now, if you're getting ready to go on vacation and want to prepare for the best sex of your life, let us give you a few useful tips:
Tip #1: Be realistic
While it's true that you might be in the mood for more sex while on vacation, you shouldn't expect to have sex every single free moment you have. Chances are that you and your partner might be tired, and simply want to sleep and rest in quiet.
So, don't put too much pressure on yourself or your partner to have sex while you're on vacation. Instead, focus on enjoying your time and your partner's company, get plenty of sleep and rest and let things happen at their own pace.
Tip #2: Foreplay starts the moment sex ends
World-renowned sex and relationship expert Esther Perel says that "foreplay is not five minutes before the real thing. Foreplay starts at the end of the previous orgasm." It might be easy to forget that when life gets hectic and busy at home.
When you're on vacation with very few distractions and a lot of free time on your hands, it might be a good time to spend some time kindling the flame outside the bedroom. Not only will it put you and your partner in the mood to have sex much more often, but it will also make it that much more satisfying and pleasurable.
So, do nice non-sexual things for your partner. Offer them a full body massage, give them your undivided attention when they are speaking, be curious about their feelings and what's on their mind, and engage in intimate things like kissing or holding hands.
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Tip #3: Don't forget the essentials
It's nothing new that sex toys and accessories can take your pleasure to the next level. So, don't shy away from taking your favorite toys and tools together with you on vacation. It will surely make vacation sex much steamier and fun.
Plus, there is no better time to try new things like a sex toy that has been on your bucket list for some time. A small external vibe like Bloomi's Massage is super versatile and can be used to enhance pleasure for both vulvas and penises.
Also, lubricants are a must! Bloomi's Smooth is a water-based personal lubricant that is nourishing and makes cleanup afterward super easy. If you'll be engaging in shower sex, you might consider Bloomi's Delight, which is an oil-based lube that's long-lasting and nourishing to the skin.
Tip#4: Create a sex menu together
A vacation is the perfect time to spend quality time with your partner, and one of the ways to do that is by creating a sex menu. A sex menu is a list (or a menu) of sexual activities you enjoy, or are curious to try.
Again, while it might be difficult to find time to sit and make a sex menu while at home, you definitely can find the time for it while you're vacationing. Also, it's an activity that can bring you and your partner closer together, as opening up and sharing things like sexual desires deepens intimacy.
Tip#5: Try new things together
And when we say try new things together, we don't only mean new things in the bedroom. Pursuing novel activities that are exciting with your partner outside the bedroom can boost your arousal, and even impact the way you see your partner.
This phenomenon is called misattribution of arousal. It's a process when you make a mistake in identifying what is causing you to feel aroused. So, for example, if you go skydiving with your partner, which is an exciting and hormonally charged activity, the feeling of euphoria you might experience afterward will be closely tied to your partner inside your mind.
So, trying new things together outside intimacy that are fun, exciting, and pleasurable for both can seriously supercharge the way you feel about your partner and the relationship. Plus, the novelty will increase your arousal, which might lead to more passionate sex.
Tip#6: Share something you haven't shared before with your partner
The same survey we mentioned earlier revealed that even 72% of people were more likely to experiment and act out their fantasies while on vacation. So, there is no better time to share your fantasies you haven't shared before than when you're on vacation.
Not only can sharing your sexual fantasy with your partner lead to exploring new things, and maybe finally bringing your fantasy to life, but it can also bring you two closer together.
Sharing something new deepens emotional intimacy, and it also adds novelty to the relationship. Your partner gets to find out something new, something they haven't known before. And that can help kindle the flame in the bedroom.