Nurture your relationship and have great holiday sex this season with these 9 tips

Holidays are a wonderful time to spend time with family, express gratitude, and have unforgettable holiday sex. However, despite the positive things that come with the holidays, many things cause stress during this period, like work obligations, family functions, trips, and gift planning. 

It's no secret that stress can be a serious libido killer, and if you or your partner are under a lot of stress, you might notice that you are not spending as much intimate time together. The good news is, that there are small things you can do to keep your relationship strong, even during the most stressful time of the year.

Your guide to a thriving relationship and mindblowing holiday sex

1. Communicate with intention

Chances are that you and your partner have different visions of how you celebrate holidays. Your partner might want to attend every Christmas party they're invited to, while you might want to spend the time at home, cooking meals and watching Christmas movies.

Because of the differences you might have, it's important to set expectations for the holiday season and communicate them with your partner beforehand. So, ask your partner to find the time for a face-to-face conversation and be intentional with your conversation.

Make it special by inviting your partner on a coffee date, or a walk in a park on the weekend. Or, ask them out on a dinner date to have this conversation. Even scheduling an intentional date night at home in the evening when the kids are at the grandparent's work.

2. Help each other out 

The holiday season is known for being hectic with travel, social gatherings, gift shopping, and trying to wrap up the last bits of work. It's a lot to manage for everyone, and one way to show your partner that you love them is by finding ways to help them out. 

Be an active participant in all holiday preparations. Check-in with your partner if you notice that they are a bit more stressed than usual. Find small ways to help where you can, like taking out trash, going on a grocery run, or making them coffee in the morning. A small kiss on the cheek, and a gentle caress on the back while making dinner in the kitchen can go a long way and help you connect with your partner even amid holiday chaos. 

The same goes for you. If you are the one with too much on your plate, ask your partner for support. Avoid simmering in negative feelings or getting angry, because it can build resentment. Instead, focus on finding small intimate gestures that help you stay connected, which will make your sexual connection flourish. 

3. Give each other small gifts 

One great way to show your partner affection during the holiday season is to gift them small gifts they might not expect. Especially if your partner’s primary love language is receiving gifts. And we're not even talking about materialistic things here, a little love letter or a note can go a long way. 

Consider buying them something sexy, like a mini vibrator to put in their stocking. If you'd rather do something sweet, fill a jar with notes that each contain something you love about your partner and give it to them so they can read one note every day. This will help foster your connection and it might even spark your partner’s desire for intimacy when you don’t expect it.

4. Give your partner a sensual massage 

Do you know the key to the best holiday sex of your life? A sensual massage. While a massage doesn't have to end with sex, it can definitely lead to it if you and your partner are in a mood. 

A massage is a wonderful way to show your partner your love and affection and help them unwind and relax after a long day or a long week. Bloomi's Luxe Massage Oil is made with clean and organic ingredients and feels great on the skin – perfect massage oil to have on hand. 

5. Create a social calendar together 

Between family gatherings, social dinners, and work functions, you and your partner's social calendars are probably full during the holiday season. Instead of trying to attend every event and dinner, sit down with your partner and decide which social events you want to attend. 

You might decide to only attend those where both of you want to go, or you choose which events you will attend together, and which you will go to separately. Planning your social calendar together can be a very intimate experience that will help you feel closer, and like a team during hectic times.

6. Give each other space 

Believe it or not, giving your partner space might bring them closer to you. "Desire is rooted in absence and longing. And the experience of 'not having' increases our 'wanting'," world-renowned relationship expert Esther Perel explains.   

But it's not only about giving space for yourself to miss your partner. The holiday season is full of obligations and stress, it might be hard to find time for self-care. Consider taking some time apart, so both of you can focus on relaxing and recharging your batteries, so that being apart might make you miss each other a little more. 

7. Schedule sex 

Studies show that scheduling sex doesn't decrease satisfaction. In reality, it will only make it more satisfactory if you schedule sex because you will be more likely to have sex. So, if you and your partner's schedules are crazy during holidays, put the time for sex in your agendas. 

Not only scheduling sex increases your chances of actually having sex, but it can also help you have better sex. As you both await for the time to come, you have something to look forward to and fantasize about. Plus, you might use this time to tease your partner with seductive glances, subtle touches, naughty text messages, and other fun things.

8. Consider quickies 

Sometimes you might not have the time for a long love-making session. That's totally fine – a quickie can be just as pleasurable and fun. When you are busy with holiday dinner preparations with the family, quickies might be the only way to include some intimate time with your partner, so embrace them this holiday season. You can have a quickie with your partner, or by yourself. Or better yet – consider a mutual masturbation session. 

Mutual masturbation is a phenomenal way to explore pleasure with your partner, but it requires a little less effort because you both know exactly how to touch yourselves. And you never know, a mutual masturbation session might turn into mindblowing holiday sex you'll remember for many years. 

9. Try something new together

Novelty is what breeds passion for life and for your partner in long-term relationships. The holiday season is the best time to consider trying a new activity with your partner. It can be anything, from taking a baking class to trying new sex positions. 

So, make a list of things outside and inside your bedroom that you'd like to try with a partner. And then, make an effort to try one new thing during your weekly date nights.