How to pleasure a penis: The 9 best ways to masturbate or please your partner
Are you curious to find out the best ways to masturbate or pleasure a penis? Well, you've come to the right place. There is a misconception that penises are often considered to be the "easier" and more straightforward genitalia when compared with the clitoris. But that isn't quite right.
The penis is a highly sensitive erogenous zone with a total of 4,000 nerve endings. So whether you're interested in solo or partnered playtime, we’re bringing you nine fun and creative ways to pleasure a penis.
How to pleasure a penis: best ways to masturbate or please your partner
Penis anatomy 101
Before we jump into the "how to" of pleasuring a penis, let's talk about the anatomy first. Learning the parts of the penis is the first step to understanding how different stimulation can bring pleasure.
The head: The head of the penis, otherwise called the glans, is the rounded tip of the penis that is highly sensitive. This is the part where all 4,000 nerve ends are, and it feels amazing when stimulated.
The shaft: The shaft makes up the majority of the penis, and it is a much less sensitive part of the penis than others. When it comes to stimulation, you might want to apply a little bit more pressure when stroking it up and down.
Foreskin: Uncircumcised penises have a foreskin that covers the glans and the frenulum and can be pulled down to reveal them. Foreskin itself can be a source of great pleasure. Even if the penis is not fully erect, stimulating the foreskin with the hands or mouth can feel amazing.
Frenulum: The frenulum is the small “V” fold of skin on the underside of the penis between the foreskin and the shaft. It’s also an erogenous zone that likes attention and gentle stimulation. For some people with penises, stimulating only this area alone can trigger orgasms.
Scrotum and testicles: At the base of the penis, there are the testicles, oval-shaped organs that rest inside a scrotum that keeps the testicles at the right temperature. This area is often referred to as simply "the balls" and is highly sensitive.
Perineum: The area behind the scrotum, and before the anus is known as the perineum. This little area is often forgotten, but it can be a great source of pleasure for people with penises.
The 9 best ways to masturbate or pleasure a penis
Now that you are familiar with the anatomy of the penis, and all the sensitive spots, let's dive into the tips and tricks to bring yourself or your partner mind-blowing pleasure.
1. Level up with an arousal oil
Our Bloomi Luxe Arousal Oil is formulated with botanical aphrodisiacs to help increase sexual arousal and make sex feel really good.
For best results, apply 2 to 4 pumps, or your desired amount, to your fingertips and gently massage on penile skin, testicles, inner thighs, and the surrounding area about 10 to 15 minutes before intimate moments.
2. Get wet, wet, wet
There’s no such thing as too much lube. Actually, the more slip, the better! Start with a water-based lubricant like Smooth Water-Based Personal Lubricant. Smooth is formulated for penile and/or vaginal application, intended to moisturize and lubricate, enhance the ease and comfort of intimate activity, and supplement the body's natural lubrication.
3. Mix things up with some vibration
Toys are meant to enhance sexual experiences. Play with different vibration patterns and intensities on your partner’s inner thigh or forearm before you go straight for the penis. Bloomi's Massage is the perfect option to stimulate the penis.
First of all, it is small and non-intimidating, and comfortably fits in the palm of your hand. Due to its sleek design it is easy to control and stimulate different pleasure points, like the head, frenulum, scrotum, and testicles.
4. Give an erotic massage
For this massage, grab our fave Bloomi Massage Oil with botanical aphrodisiacs and CBD. Apply a generous amount of oil to your palms and your partner's body. You can do this while sitting on your partner or beside them.
Start the massage with less popular erogenous zones like their shoulders, neck, inner thighs, wrists, and palms. Massage your partner everywhere, but their intimate zones to build tension and anticipation. The teasing is part of the fun and can be very erotic.
Once you are ready to move on to the next level, place your arms on either side of the penis while the person receiving it is laying on their back. Apply a bit of pressure as you move up and down along the sides of the shaft. Pro-tip: Lean forward and give it kisses or licks throughout.
Get handsy
Using your hands to stimulate your or your partner's penis can be very pleasurable. We recommend always using loads of lube when you get handsy with a penis because the slippery feel is much better than touching dry skin.
Here are a few of our favorite moves for pleasuring a penis:
The Gearstick
Rest your hand on the head of the penis, just as you would on the gearstick of a car. Apply your favorite lubricant, and start making circular movements with the palm of your hand. Pro-tip: You can simultaneously use your other hand to gently squeeze the shaft and move in up-and-down motions.
What the frenulum?
Remember the super sensitive V-shaped area just underneath the head of the penis? Show it some love with your hands! Use your thumb to massage the spot in various motions – up and down, side to side, and in circles.
Combine that with stroking the shaft of the penis up and down with your other hand, or gently massaging the scrotum in your palm for combined pleasure.
Also, tease this area with kisses, licks, or flicks for as long as possible in between massaging it with the thumb. Switching up the sensations can be very exciting and pleasurable.
It’s all in the head
As mentioned, the head of the penis contains thousands of nerve endings. Circle the head of the penis with your index finger and thumb. The best place is right around where the frenulum is. Tighten the grip a little bit and then twist your hand back and forth.
Your other hand can focus on stroking the shaft of the penis or the scrotum, depending on which the receiving partner prefers more. Play with different movements and, of course, check in with your partner(s) to make sure they’re feeling good.
5. Use your mouth
Oral sex is one of the most intimate activities you can engage in with your partner(s) because it grips all your senses. When performing oral sex on a penis, focus your attention on the head, frenulum, and foreskin (if still intact). Of course, every penis is different and enjoys different sensations, so be sure to check in with the receiver.
As far as techniques go, saliva and lube will be your best friends. Once the penis is well lubricated, run your lips and tongue up and down along the shaft. As you move toward the head of the penis, move your tongue in circular motions clockwise and counter-clockwise.
And we get it, it's normal to stick with the oral sex positions that feel the most comfortable, but you might want to step outside your comfort zone with one of these, too:
Twisted pleasure: There is one oral sex technique that can be extremely pleasurable for people with penises. Your mouth will be focusing solely on the head of the penis and the frenulum, while you will be using your hands on the shaft. Make sure you have edible lube on hand to help keep things wet if saliva is not enough.
With your mouth, suck on the very tip of the penis, while flattening your tongue against the frenulum. You might draw circles if you're comfortable, see what feels the best. Use one hand or both hands to grip the shaft of the penis and twist your wrists as you move up and down. Lastly, once you're comfortable, twist your head to the opposite side of your hand(s) while sucking on the tip.
Sixty-nine: An oldie, but a goodie. One partner lays down on their back, and another gets on top as you would during a Missionary. But, instead of being face-to-face, you both face each other's intimate areas.
It can be very sexy to pleasure your partner while they pleasure you at the same time. And if 69 is something you have tried before, consider doing it on the side.
Pillow prince: This is a pretty safe and comfortable oral sex position that allows the receiver to completely relax and enjoy being pleasured. So, the receiver lays down on their back in the bed. Place some pillows for comfort, if needed.
The giving partner kneels or lays down between their legs, and pleasures them with their mouth. Kneeling might be easier if you want to combine mouth and hand stimulation, as it allows for more space to move around.
Kinging: Kinging or better known as queening in the BDSM world is the act of face sitting during oral sex. The giving partner lays down on their back on a comfortable surface. You can add pillows under the head and neck for support.
The receiving partner straddles their partner's head and places the penis in their mouth. The receiving partner can kneel or squat, depending on what is more comfortable. You can also add pillows under your knees to prevent knee pain and give the giving partner more space to breathe.
Deep pleasure: This is one of the best oral sex positions for a deep throat. The giving partner lays down on their back, at the very edge of the bed or a sofa so their head dangles off the edge. The receiving partner gets on their knees and thrusts the penis inside their partner's mouth.
In front of the mirror: Adding an element of voyeurism and exhibitionism into your sexual routines can be exhilarating. And the good news is that you don't need to leave your home to do that.
A receiving partner sits in front of the mirror. It's best if the mirror is full-length. The giving partner kneels in front of them, and pleasures their partner with their mouth and hands.
6. Add a c-ring
Changing things up adds novelty to every sexual experience. C-rings are a fun option because they can add extra sensations, feel-good pressure, and even make an erection firmer. Simply place the ring gently at the base of a flaccid penis and have fun with any of the activities you’d usually do. C-ring is great for intercourse, blowjobs, and handjobs.
One important thing to remember is to not keep the c-ring on for longer than 20 minutes at a time. Restricting the blood flow for too long can be risky, so take breaks if you have longer pleasure sessions.
7. Butt play is fun, too
Anal stimulation can enhance orgasms and overall pleasure for people with penises. Whether with fingers, an anal plug, or a dildo, exploring different sensations solo or with a partner(s) will unlock stronger, more intense orgasms.
If your partner is hesitant, we recommend starting slow and first stimulating the anus from the outside. Apply lube and then play around with different strokes and pressures. If you're into it, consider using your tongue to stimulate your partner's anus and see if that feels good.
Once your partner is warmed up, you can insert one finger (make sure it's lubed up well!). If they are very into it and feel good, it might be a good idea to try a sex toy. Bloomi's Indulge is the perfect tool for that.
8. Introduce powerplay
Introducing a little bit of powerplay into partnered play can be very exciting. And it's super easy to do, even for beginners. The giving partner can be in control, while the receiving partner is the one surrendering control.
A beginner-friendly way to incorporate powerplay is ordering the receiving partner to not touch you while you give them a blowjob or a handjob. You can also reverse the roles where the receiver is the one in control, telling the giving partner exactly how they want to be pleasured.
9. Mutual pleasure
Mutual masturbation can be extremely fun and sexy. It is visually arousing, and seeing you touch yourself in front of your partner can be a huge turn-on for them.
Also, mutual masturbation is a fantastic way to show each other how you like to be touched, and what feels the best. It's a great way to communicate your sexual preferences if talking about it is difficult, or if you're too shy.
