Sex-positive ways to kick off the new year
Instead of encouraging you to make big resolutions—we want to help you bring in a sex-positive new year.
Instead of encouraging you to make big resolutions, which studies show fail more often than not, we want to share some sexologist-approved tips that will help you kick off the new year. Amid the stress (or excitement) of a new 365 days or the pain of having to return to work, it’s easy to forget important, tangible tasks that ensure your sexual health and pleasure. That’s why we put together this index of sexy items to add to your new year to-do list.
Get tested.
New year, same you. Your sexual history doesn't erase when the clock strikes 12. If you haven't had an STI test after your last partner, be sure to schedule one early in the year. While you're at it, if you have multiple partners or are having sex without a barrier method, consider scheduling tests in your calendar during each season (or after sex with each new partner).
Throw out expired intimate products and restock.
In case you didn't know: condoms and lubricants expire. The new year is a great time to go through your nightstand drawer and toss out those dusty sex products. While some items might not have an expiration date, and there aren't really standardized expirations for all sexual goods, experts say the lifespan of condoms is about three to five years and one to three years for lube.
If you're unsure when you bought the goods, conduct a safe sample test. For condoms, take one out of the wrapper; if it's chalky, dry or brittle, dump the whole box. For lube, squeeze a bit out; if the odor or taste is off, the consistency is different from when you opened it or the color changed, ditch it entirely.
Schedule sex in your calendar.
As we've said before, spontaneous sex is ah-maze-ing, but it's not always realistic. With jam-packed work-life schedules that leave us stressed or exhausted, sex isn't always top of mind. That doesn't make you a terrible person, and it doesn't mean you don't care about yourself or your partner(s). But sex is important to a lot of relationships, including the one you have with yourself, and it might be helpful to schedule intentional time to have sex on your calendar.
Regardless if it's solo or partnered sex, scheduled sex builds anticipation, promotes connectedness and comes with numerous health benefits, like reducing pain, alleviating stress and boosting cardiovascular strength.
Talk about sex.
Talking about sex is healthy—for so many different types of relationships. Through honest, respectful and age-appropriate conversations about sex and intimacy, you can decrease the likelihood of a child having a warped idea about sexuality, end sex shame among your friends and ensure you and your partner(s)’s needs are being met.
There are sex activities and sexual communication guides to help you navigate these conversations. However, if you’re finding it particularly challenging to talk s-e-x with someone, consider bringing in an expert like a sexologist, sex therapist or sex coach.
Buy a new sex toy.
Finally, if you received a holiday bonus or a monetary gift, celebrate the new year by treating yourself to a new sex toy. Bloomi designs versatile, intimate care devices for all bodies and relationships. If you want a sex toy to boost your intimate sessions, we recommend Indulge Double-Sided Vibrator or Massage Clitoral and Body Vibrator.