How to throw a passion party at home
If you're tired of hosting regular dinner parties and you want a new and exciting way to entertain your friends at home, then we recommend throwing a passion party.
Many of us love to discuss and share our sex and dating life with our closest friends. And passion parties are all about that connection and talking about sex, but make it even more fun, because you have games, drinks, and toys.
Ahead, we have put together a comprehensive guide on what a passion party is, why you want to host a passion party, and how to do it at home with ease.
How to throw a passion party at home: a comprehensive guide
What is a passion party?
A passion party is a social gathering with the purpose of talking about sex, sex toys, and everything in between. It often takes place at someone's home, where you have drinks, snacks (or a full meal) and play games, and discuss sex products like toys, lubricants, accessories, and much more.
Why host a passion party?
You don't need a special occasion to throw a passion party. However, it could be a fantastic idea for a birthday celebration, a bachelorette, or a bridal shower.
While a passion party is all about having fun, a huge part of the experience is sex education. You have an opportunity to learn about different sex toys and how they can improve your pleasure.
Also, passion parties are not only about toys, but also a great place to share sex-related issues (like painful penetration, low libido, etc.) you or your friends might have and share each other's experiences which might be helpful for others.
Plus, when you open up about your sex life and share not only the exciting and cool things like your favorite sex toy but something that might be hard to talk about, like low libido or orgasm difficulties, it helps to normalize the fact that everyone's sex life is unique and different.
Can anyone throw a passion party?
Anyone can throw a passion party, there is no need for special credentials or experience. As long as you're interested and comfortable discussing intimate topics in a group setting, you're good to go.
You can host it with a group of close friends, or involve your neighbors who are interested, and there are also companies you can book that organize these events for you.
How to host a passion party at home: a step-by-step guide
Now that we discussed what a passion party is and why you should consider hosting one yourself, let's go over the step-by-step process of hosting a passion party at home.
Step 1: Invitations
The first step is to determine who you want to invite to your passion party. Depending on the group of people you invite and how close and comfortable discussing sex you are with them, many other parts of the party will vary.
You can invite as many people as you want, but one thing that makes a passion party fun is how intimate it is, so up to 10 guests should be more than enough. Also, consider the space you'll need to host all the people.
Sending the invitations out can be as simple as creating a Facebook event and inviting the people, or even texting them the date and place. However, if you want to go the extra mile and make the event a bit more special consider sending out actual invitations either by email or better yet by mail.
You can create a design for a cute invite yourself with free design tools like Canva. Or, browse Etsy to find cute templates that are designed for special occasions and use them for your invitations.
Step 2: Activities
There are many different things you can do during your passion parties to keep your guests entertained:
Pick a theme
Before you decide on what activities you want to do, it might be smart to pick a theme for your passion party. "Everything sex" is a very broad theme, and it might be overwhelming to decide how to structure the party and what topics or products to even discuss.
You already know what people will be coming to your party. Consider what things they would be interested in. Are they into more romantic sex and are interested in intimacy building? Maybe they're curious to learn about kink and BDSM activities? Or maybe they're very new to sex toys and have no clue where to start.
Group activities
Once you pick a theme for your passion party, you can then choose what activities to include. If your theme is "romantic and intimate sex" then consider sex games and activities that lean more on exploring intimacy between partners and figure out ways to keep the conversation about that side of sex.
This is a great place to discuss products like the couples card game Where Should We Begin by Esther Perel. It's a perfect card deck for couples who are looking to deepen their intimacy and get to know each other better.
Another intimacy-related activity that works perfectly for a passion party is to start A Sex Journal. It's a tool that was invented for couples to start journaling about their relationship and sex together. If you have couples attending the party together, they can start working on it right away.
And if it's only you and your friends, introducing them to the product and encouraging them to start journaling, or discussing their relationship in a group is a great way to get started as well.
Now, for a party that revolves around kink and BDSM exploration, a wonderful way to spend the afternoon/evening is by doing a BDSM test.
This kink test is designed for beginners and people who might be interested in exploring BDSM to better understand what type of kinks they have.
It has a shorter version for those who are only mildly curious and a longer, full version for those who want a comprehensive analysis of their kinks. Doing a test during the party can be a fun way for everyone to share and discuss their results and how to incorporate kink exploration into their sexual routines.
Play fun sex games
During your passion party, you might consider playing fun sex games like the Lap Game. It can be a fun way to take a break between talking about sex-related topics and products, and games can be great for connecting with each other.
The rules for the Lap Game are pretty simple. In the middle of the room, place chairs in a circle. The host of the game stands in the middle, while the participants sit on their chairs.
The host asks sex-related questions like, "Have you ever had sex in a car?" or "Have you ever tried a sex toy with a partner?" If the guests answer "yes" to the question, they have to move to sit on the chair on the left, even if the chair is occupied.
The winner of the game is the one who returns to their chair first. As the guests move and sometimes have to overlap while sitting on one chair, it only adds to the fun. And later, you can discuss all the sexual experiences everyone had and share fun stories.
Step 3: The menu
A good passion party requires some refreshments like drinks, canapes, or even a more serious meal. You might ask your guests to bring their own drinks, or dedicate who's responsible for making cocktails (or mocktails if you're alcohol-free).
Now it's the best time to get snacks and candies that are shaped like intimate body parts and have fun with it. Also, if it's a birthday, consider getting a cake shaped like intimate body parts. It's playful and fun, and will definitely guarantee many laughs.
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Step 4: Sex product showdown
The best part of any passion party is, of course, discussing sex products like toys, lubes, accessories, and much more. As a host, you'll want to prepare and have a selection of products to discuss. It might be your favorite sex toy, lubricant, or handcuffs you recommend.
Keep in mind diversity when choosing products. Because everyone has very individual likes and dislikes when it comes to sex and sex toys, it's nice to include an array of products to discuss that work for different people and their needs.
For example, if you're talking about sex toys, consider including external toys like Bloomi's Massage clitoral vibrator. It's designed with body-safe soft silicone that feels luxurious and modern and is the perfect tool for those who enjoy external stimulation.
Also, Massage is perfect for coupled play as it's compact enough to use for clitoral stimulation during penetrative sex to help people with vulvas have an orgasm easier.
Now, for those who enjoy penetrative stimulation of their G-spot or P-spot, a toy like Bloomi's Indulge double-sided vibrator is a better toy. It has one vibrating side and one non-vibrating side, so you can change things up and enjoy a variety of stimulations.
The same goes for lubricants. Some might prefer to use water-based products like Bloomi's Smooth which is slippery yet super easy to clean up and is safe to use with condoms and sex toys. While others might prefer something that provides a bit more nourishment and hydration during penetration like Bloomi's Delight oil-based lube.
It might be a good idea to encourage your guests to bring their favorite sex toy or an accessory that they can't live without so that you can all share recommendations and discover new things to try this way.