Never had period sex? Here's 4 first-time tips for trying it out

This article originally appeared in DIVACup’s Conscious Cycle.

Getting your red wings, red sex, period sex. Whatever you’ve heard it referenced as, having sex on your period isn’t just fun, but it can be a really great way to explore your own body, libido and intimacy — and if you’ve never done it, we highly recommend giving it a try.

“Period sex is an opportunity to embrace your body in all its natural glory,” Catherine Drysdale, an sex and relationships coach tells Conscious Cycle. “While experiencing intimacy on a whole new level.”

So whether you’re looking to explore period sex, you want to know the science behind red sex or you’re wondering how to tell your partner you might be into trying it out, Drysdale has given us the lowdown on period sex, below.

If you’ve never had period sex, why consider it?

Ok, so if you’ve never had period sex, why consider it at all? Well, there is an entire group of folks who really love red sex — and for good reason.

“Thanks to hormonal shifts, many people feel more sensitive and aroused during their period, making orgasms even more satisfying,” Drysdale explains.

Plus, she says, the health benefits are undeniable — relief from cramps, a boost in mood, and an all-natural way to connect with your partner. It’s about pleasure and power, not shame.

What are some scientific (and other) benefits to it?

There are so many benefits to period sex (backed by science, of course! According to Drysdale, some are:

• Orgasms during your period are like a supercharged reset for your body. They release endorphins that help alleviate cramps, improve your mood, and reduce stress.

•  Because your pain and pleasure receptors are heightened during this time, some people enjoy experimenting with rougher sensations or exploring sensitive areas like nipples or breasts. 

• Your body’s increased blood flow can make orgasms even more intense. 

“If cramps are getting in the way,” Drysdale explains, “Incorporating a little CBD into your pre-play routine can offer additional relief while enhancing sensation.” For that, we recommend the Foria Awaken Arousal Oil packed with CBD.

4 tips for trying out period sex for the first time

Exploring period sex for the first time is all about setting the tone for comfort and curiosity! Here are some expert-approved tips to get started, below.

1. Shower or bath sex

First up: Shower or bath sex. If you’re into trying period sex, incorporating the water can keep things clean and add a layer of sensuality, too. It’s also a great way to ease into the experience, Drysdale adds.

2. Lay down a towel

“Sometimes the simplest solutions are the best,” she explains, “A dark towel can eliminate any worries about mess and let you focus on the fun.”

3. Try a menstrual disc or period-safe product

Have you ever tried out a menstrual disc before? When it comes to having hot (mess-free) period sex, incorporating a Diva Disc can make it all the more fun — allowing for penetration without the mess, and keeping things tidy and pleasurable.

4. Explore new sensations

“Take advantage of heightened sensitivity by incorporating nipple play or experimenting with a rougher touch if it feels good,” Drysdale also suggests, “External stimulation can also be an exciting way to explore without the pressure of penetration.”

How can you tell your partner your interest in period sex?

We get it: Wanting to try new things in the bedroom can feel a little daunting — especially when it comes to sharing it with your partner for the first time. But it doesn’t have to be.

It can help to start by referencing something you’ve seen in media or pop culture. For example, “I was reading about how period sex can be great for intimacy—what do you think about that?” This takes the pressure off by removing yourself from the equation at first, making it easier to temperature-check their interest. 

“Once you’ve gauged their feelings, you can share that you’re curious to explore it together,” she explains, “Using media as a starting point can help reduce anxious feelings about rejection while opening the door to trying something new.”

Period sex is not shameful and should be celebrated!

Remember, period sex is not shameful and should be celebrated! In fact, contrary to popular belief, some partners are 1000% down with a little bloody mess. 

“I’ve had partners who loved eating me out during my period without using any products to reduce flow,” Drysdale even shared, “Funny enough, talking about period sex online was the moment I doubled down on this career.”

While she experienced a lot of backlash from people who thought it was crude, she adds, it made her even more committed to my mission: To normalize exploring sexuality and experiencing as much pleasure as possible. 

“Periods aren’t gross,” she says, “They’re just another part of the beautiful, messy magic of being human.”